Dyslexia Coach of N.J., LLC

Jennifer K. Slaight

Certified Dyslexia Specialist
Monmouth County, N.J.
Bergen County, Somerset County, Ocean County, Middlesex County

Private tutors for children & adults

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Adults with Dyslexia
smart people who read slowly

Dyslexia working memory

People with dyslexia have a hard time processing, storing and retrieving information that is taught with traditional methods. A multi-sensory approach to learning is the most effective.  We teach reading and spelling without memorizing.


Synonym:
(noun)

A word used in place of one you can't spell


Why is storing and retrieving language information difficult?

A poor working memory (short term) and difficulty processing language are the causes.

These difficulties do not impair intellectual ability or creativity.

The traditional learner can hold about 7 items in their short term memory.  After 30 seconds, that information is either lost or stored in the long term memory.

short term memory shelf

The dyslexic learner can only hold about 3 memory items in their short term memory. Making it more difficult to store information, like remembering a phone number. Many adults have compensated for this deficit in working memory by 'chunking' information and linking related information together so their "3 storage units" can hold more.

There is nothing wrong with the brain of a dyslexic.  It's not damaged or defective.  It's just different. In fact, the dyslexic brain is 10% bigger than the average learner.

Our tutoring program will help strengthen your reading & spelling skills so you can recall stored information more efficiently. The stored information is there but dyslexic learners have great difficulty in retrieving that stored information.

A dyslexic brain when it comes to storing language information is like a messy filing cabinet. You put stuff in there and then you can't find it when you need it, but you know it's there.

launguage processing storage for dyslexics

In fact, dyslexic learners completely bypass the most efficient area of the brain that processes language. Fmri brain scans show the brain at work and neurons are found in unusual areas of the brain for language processing in people with dyslexia. Dyslexic learners don't use that storage area.

With our tutoring program, we don't "rewire" the brain, we use the strength of the brain to overcome the language processing difficulties. It's a more creative and non conventional way of storing language information so it can be retrieved easily. It's really a different filing system.


Most adults with dyslexia
can relate to this emotional account....

"So - it was finally upon me: the Day of the Assessment, or, as it seemed to me, Judgment Day. I had put off making the appointment with the psychologist for weeks, but I couldn't put it off for ever. My wife was badgering me, the children were encouraging me, friends were lecturing me. They had all become convinced that I was dyslexic. They had heard programs about it, read books about it, talked to people about it - and now they were absolutely positive I was dyslexic. But I didn't feel so sure.

True, all my life I'd struggled with reading and writing. True, I'd always felt in a muddle somehow - but surely that was just me. At school I'd been put down as 'lazy', 'not very bright'; at college I had to work twice as hard as everyone else just to survive; and at work I was constantly in trouble for forgetting things and making silly mistakes.

I always seemed to be battling somehow, battling to express myself, battling to take in what people were saying, battling to organize myself, battling to keep some self respect in the face of constant frustration and humiliation.

And now suddenly people were telling me, "No, this isn't stupidity, it isn't laziness or bloody-mindedness, it isn't anything terrible at all - it's just a collection of difficulties that you can do something about." I felt I didn't know what to believe about myself.

As I drove to The Assessment, I began to fear the worst, I felt my hands clammy and my heart beating. What dreadful revelations would there be about me?

And indeed as the assessment progressed, I felt that my worst fears were being realized. I found it hard to give the psychologist any sort of coherent account of my problems; and, even though the tests were quite straightforward, I could feel myself getting panicky and making a mess of simple things. The reading and writing bits were the worst; I could hear myself stumbling over words, and a little composition I tried to write came out like gibberish.

I felt despondent and defeated and waited miserably for the psychologist's 'pronouncement'. Somewhere far off, almost in another world, I heard her saying, "Well, Mr Smith ..." and then I just caught phrases: "no problems with your reasoning power ... very great potential ... hampered throughout life by dyslexic difficulties ... done tremendously well in the circumstances ... just need some specialist tuition."

I felt numb for a few moments - then an overwhelming sense of relief. To my amazement I found I'd burst into tears - as if forty years of damned up frustration and worry about myself suddenly flooded out.

I felt embarrassed about being so emotional though at the same time it made me feel a lot better. In fact, as I left the psychologist's office, I found myself grinning in a silly sort of way. I was gripped by a kind of elation - I almost floated back to the car. I was all right! It seemed as though some massive distortion in my life had suddenly been straightened out. I wasn't a fool, I wasn't a sluggard, I wasn't a lost cause, I had some perfectly ordinary difficulties that I could get help for.

I bought some flowers and a bottle of wine and went home. The family were waiting for me all agog. They spent the evening saying "told you so" in various ways, but I couldn't explain to them what a world of difference there is between people telling you something and you really knowing it yourself.

For a day or so my feelings of elation continued, but, as the days passed and I began to take in the implications of what had happened, my mood changed. I began to have feelings of resentment, anger, rage that I had spent so many years thinking so little of myself, so many years hiding from the world, concealing some dark secret that was a mystery even to me. Bitterly I remembered the moments of humiliation, the periods of despair.

It almost seemed as if I'd spent forty years in the wrong life. Forty years being confused about myself and bewildered by my behavior. Forty years squandering energy in erecting defenses against myself. How much more could I have done in life had I been free of all that fear and bewilderment!

To the dismay of my family and friends, I began to sink into despondency, even depression. I just felt that half my life had been lost and there was no way of getting it back. I suppose there was only one word for what I was feeling: grief. Grief for the loss of what might have been. Like all grief it was a very painful experience.

But I knew that I had to confront it and accept the losses of the past if I was to turn my life around in the future. So I did confront it - I sat it out, and at least the family were sensible enough not to try and jolly me out of it.

Eventually I surfaced again - with a strong resolve to give myself a future that was better than the past. I signed on with a tutor and began to talk through my difficulties and learn ways of dealing with them. I was still prone to periods of anger and depression, but these gradually grew less.

I think one of the most positive things to come out of this is that the energy I used to put into 'hiding' now goes into finding constructive ways of dealing with my problems. I've got more confident too - I appreciate my good points and don't see myself simply as a liability to people as I did in the past.

And I am not afraid to ask for help either: I asked a friend to help me write this piece - but I can assure you that the emotions described here are very much my own!"

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Answers
to FAQ


Yes, we tutor adults

No, you don't need to be diagnosed with dyslexia to enroll in our tutoring program and have success with it. If you are an adult, who reads slowly and have terrible spelling...this program is for you.


This program works because we teach language without relying on memorization.  We also teach spelling as strongly as reading.


Dyslexia or not, the only thing we can confirm is that the traditional teaching methods for language, when adults took it the first time in school, didn't work. It still doesn't work for up to 3 kids in every classroom today.


We offer a different teaching approach to accommodate different learning styles.


It's not a learning disability, it's a learning difference.


Dyslexia is a weak listening skill. 


No, nothing is wrong with your ears and nothing is wrong with your brain. It's the connection between the two where information gets fuzzy. It's a language processing difficulty. People with dyslexia find turning symbols (letters) to sounds, then making words challenging. 


It's the foundation of language where the difficulties are found, not the complex or more advanced levels in our language.


Remember, speaking is natural, reading is not!


Question:

What if it's not dyslexia...and I'm just stupid...I'm afraid to find out I'm stupid?

Answer:

Stupid people,
never question whether they are stupid.   : )

Jen Slaight


It's never too late
to learn,
how YOU learn!